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Dear Mel,
This morning I had to face something I knew I’d have to face eventually. I have noticed girls wearing lots of make up at a younger and younger age…this morning, this young girl was MY 11 year old daughter. I recently bought her facial cleaner, powder foundation, and very light eye shadow. I made sure to show her how to use these things and which ones to use (our makeup is in the same case).
Well, this morning she came out of her room with her head down, acting like she was scratching her forehead. She then proceeded to ask me if she could paint her nails…outside! She said “because of the smell.” I told her no, and fixed her a place at the counter to paint. She proceeded to open the nail polish with her face down, obviously “hiding something”. I said, “Look at me, what are you hiding from me”. As she looked up, I was in shock! She had put eyeliner on the bottom of her eyes, it didn’t look awful, but she’s 11….not 18. I was most disappointed that she tried to “hide it from me”. I explained to her that I was disappointed, and of course she tried to defend herself by snapping back at me…so I told her no nail polish, wash the eye liner off, and I told her I was upset that she was being deceitful and as Christians, we need to be Christ-like and non-Christians are watching for things like that. I was just wondering , if this was your daughter, what would you have done? Thanks Mel
I would say no about the eyeliner too. She’s only 11. I also would probably not allow her to wear ANY make-up for a period of time because she tried to hide it. It would have been one thing if she had come out with it on and hadn’t hidden her face. If you can’t trust her with a little bit of make-up, then restrict the access for a few days or a week.
Thankfully, it’s only make-up and I am sure a lot of us did this. But you don’t want it to lead to big things. You know your daughter best, so ultimately you have to decide the best course of action for her.
Hugs,
Mel